I love meeting new people, even if it makes me a little nervous. But one set of words that I hear at mixers and networking events makes me really want to run for the hills. You may have uttered these words. And I want to share some alternatives with you, so that you’ll make more connections, rather than having people dash off.
　　我喜歡認(rèn)識(shí)新朋友，即便這會(huì)讓我感到有些緊張。但從交友活動(dòng)中聽到的一些話讓我真想逃之夭夭。你也許會(huì)說出這些話。我希望和你分享一些別的說法，這樣你會(huì)交到更多的朋友而不是讓人們對你避之不及。
　　Last night, I attended a fun networking event in Berkeley, full of people who are on LinkedIn. The event was hosted by Ilene Koehler, who set us up in speed-dating fashion, to mix and mingle for five minutes per “couple,” and then move on. I noticed that three of the people I met immediately introduced themselves by saying something like this:
　　昨天晚上，我在伯克利參加了一個(gè)有趣的交友活動(dòng)。很多人是LinkedIn社交網(wǎng)站的網(wǎng)友。 這次活動(dòng)的主持人是Ilene Koehler。她主持我們進(jìn)行速配約會(huì)，每“一對”交流五分鐘，然后換不同的對象。我發(fā)現(xiàn)我見到的人中有三個(gè)直接這樣介紹自己：
　　“Hi. I’m John Doe. And I’m unemployed.”
　　“嗨，我叫John Doe，我沒工作。”
　　Shoot, this isn’t an AA meeting. But those initial words left me feeling awkward and sorry for my fellow networkers. Somehow, I felt obligated, like I was supposed to help out. The energy between us felt heavy. So I actually told one of these networkers, “Hey, you shouldn’t say your unemployed. Say you’re between jobs. Or tell people that you’re looking for a new job in whatever field you’d enjoy.” He got the point immediately. He smiled. He felt better about himself.
　　暈，這不是一次AA制聚會(huì)。這樣的開場白讓我覺得窘迫，并為同來的人們感到抱歉。不知為什么，我覺得我必須幫助他們。我們兩人之間的氣氛變得很凝重。于是我告訴其中一位：“嘿，你不必說自己沒有工作。說你正在求職�；蛘吒嬖V別人你正在尋找一份自己喜歡的工作。”他立刻明白，笑了笑，覺得輕松多了。
　　You see, saying “I’m unemployed” tells people what you’re not. And, in this case, it communicates “I’m not employed.” To me, saying “I’m unemployed” sounds a little bit like you don’t feel like you fit in with the world. Look, my friends,　your self-worth is not determined by your job.
　　你看，說“沒有工作”是在告訴別人自己“不是什么”。 此時(shí)，它傳遞的是“我沒有工作”的含義。但是對我而言，它聽上去有點(diǎn)像是你覺得自己沒有融入這個(gè)世界。嗨，朋友們，你的自我價(jià)值不是由你的工作決定的。
　　I invite you to consider what really makes up your self-worth—like your caring heart, or your ability to stand tall in the face of adversity. But please know that you are not a social misfit just because some company has not decided to bring you on board. Or some organization decided to let you go. A company is not your family, believe it or not. So, if you don’t “belong” to a company, you’re still a living, breathing, talented human being.
　　請你想一想到底是什么構(gòu)成了你的自我價(jià)值——比如：關(guān)愛之心、面對逆境堅(jiān)強(qiáng)不屈的精神。但是要知道，僅僅是某公司沒有錄用你或者當(dāng)某個(gè)企業(yè)讓你走人并不表明你是社會(huì)中的“另類”。公司不是你的家，信不信由你。所以，如果你不“屬于”一個(gè)公司，你還是一個(gè)活著的、呼吸著的、有才華的人。